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and serving it on fancy little plates you also got for them
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Mostly I always have leftovers to feed them
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I just drunk ate them tonight
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The leftovers, I mean
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Not the kittens
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Kittens taste great though
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A tale in four parts
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Riveting! Two thumbs up 👍
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The emotions, the sheer satisfaction of licking human blood off his claws really came through.
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So as I saw this I walked outside for a cigarette and Leo meowed at me immediately, jumped up next to me on my bench, sniffed my dress...... and immediately leapt off when I slowly extended a hand :(
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I'm leaving in a week anyway so I guess not good to make friends now
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Came outside for a night smoke and in half a second Quicksilver is literally racing down the tree to come at me expecting food
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THERE IS A SOCIAL CONTRACT HERE DAMMIT
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😡
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Dammit Egyptian cats who have racial memory of being worshipped
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(I have no food)
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how’s the tindering though?
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You need food nvldinpawupz

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That’s called Grubhub
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It’s like tinder but you get what you actually want
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Aapiring Chang girls? Doubt it
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For context, Chang girl, a type of beer girl, is a profession that’s about dressing up in a beer-brand-uniform and then trying to sell as much beer as possible in a bar
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Think flight attendant exclusively for alcohol and working on the ground
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don't think I've ever seen a foreigner Chang girl
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Okay but also there are two names and three people in that photo
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hahahaha this is probably a common occurance
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Hmm, I wonder what the statistics of cat stowaways are
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They like to travel (for free of course)
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Can fit. Will travel.
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i think you mean "cat fits. he'll travel."
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Woof, this has been a day already, after four hours' sleep. Usually my brain balks at doing the Spanish under these conditions but for some reason it's cooperating this morning.
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I'm running on alfajores and coffee too
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I have no more cat pictures. I've been separated from Smokey
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Worm creature on a fishing string.
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He now goes to his box and stares at us until we get it out.
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_Cat fishing_
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Yep
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Taking a break from the 2020 campaign.
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All work and no play…turns you into U1RUGTVT6….
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Do u guise mind if I rename this chan to #_pets and start a #_dating chan?
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I like the name #_relationships because it implies all the types we deal with... Not just romantic
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^ agree with tsccdrzakeimee
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dating convos happen. but they're super rare
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which is why people post filler
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It has drifted a bit heavily towards animals... I guess that means everyone here is in healthy human relationships? Or, maybe it's just a coping strategy? 😉
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i think it's because most people have more relationships with furry creatures than humans. 🙂
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Haha
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Ok ok I'll just make a #_dating chan for only nomad dating talk
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I'm dating my cat right now and we are happy
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Wait, isn't that what we just said we didn't want? haha
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i think adding a channel and leaving this one alone is fine. but i suspect it will be a ghost town.
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A compromise, I won't rename
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But I need a channel cause I'm pushing the /dating part of the site
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And if they come here and only see cats it'll be a bit strange maybe
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We used to talk about dating and relationships here, but it has been overtaken by the found floofer feed
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With all due respect to the cats, they're good cats
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Agreed, and totally understand. I like them both, but considering posting random animals has become a thing, and you want to make a dating/relationships specific channel... Has to be a way to smooth the transition
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I have noticed every once in a while people ask when are we gonna talk about actual stuff or trying to start a talk but a lot of times people will flood with cat pics and it is hard to follow up 😄
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I agree with ksjinjcus on the follow up, and starting a discussion
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I love organic channels etc, don't wanna moderate a lot, so yes dating chan works for me and then keep this channel, I'd prefer rename to pets but let's keep like this for now
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Cannot say if rename or new…cannot deal with the cat riot if I say make new for cats, but it makes sense as the only active people here are the cat people so they are most likely the ones to see the changes and join
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Yes mostly for new members that wanna discuss dating as nomad challenges would be nice to give them a place
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👍
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Anyway pls continue the cats
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😁
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The old guard has a lot to advice to give... I think the trick is getting the existing members to be aware there's a new channel for relationships and dating. But, if you make it just "dating" then the couples and other people here won't join in and share, obviously
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i think we are equal opportunity floof lovers. cats just seem to generally have more weird shit happening.
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maybe add in the description there is #_dating for humans 😄
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😂
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probably good to make it clear that it's not a place to post singles ads...
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kfwgwfzzlgzxom so i can auto invite new members to for ex #_dating so it slowly fills up etc
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unless that's the goal
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Haha
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Yup, but were do we go to talk about family relationships? Here, but same issue...
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I'd say make the animals/pets related channel, and invite people there, rather than the other way. Again, not to exclude non-romantic relationships
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better would probably be to make this one animals/pets and create a new one for general relationships if you're going that route.
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i just feel sad. this is, IMO, the best channel on this slack and whatever happens it looks like it's going to die now.
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Rename this to #_pets-n-animals, then make a new #_relationships ?
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Agreed. I do miss the discussions in the past
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i like the mishmash. it's unlikely i'll join the new channel(s). i like occasional convos but i would not want it to be the only topic of conversation. but that's just me.
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I'd not like dating to be the only topic of conversation in a channel... Would definitely get dull
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but isn't that the whole point of pulling it out into a separate channel? if it's not going to be the subject of the channel then why make it?
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True. But I like the previous mix of talking about romantic and platonic relationships in the same place. Keep it interesting
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but there was barely any of that, which is why the animal pics started as filler. so i don't see why this is going to be any different.
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Wait I'm confused
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Where do I post cat pics now
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My 2 cents is that I like that we talk about romantic and non romantic interpersonal relationships here. Ppl have definitely talked about friend of family stuff and I find it to be well rounded (along with the occasional cat pics)
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Think is rdwruwcttl wanna push the dating service and auto invite people who use it and if they come in here and see cats they wont feel like using it 😄
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if you create a dating channel im gonna post cats in there too
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i did not frame it right, but it will seem too offtopic for new people i guess (and i get it)
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thats rebellious qwbjpbyfi
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To be honest I miss the old discussions in here.. it’s veered a bit too heavily to pets territory
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blqayblpkliqbx good idea
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Suddenly I feel 10% more wholesome and less sleazy 🌹
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... now, just to take all the people that make #_relationships interesting and get them here
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...to talk about pets 😄
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Hehe, that's kind of what happened. Except without 2700 people
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This channel could do with some more.. cats?
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sorry....could not resist
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Nah this is the new #_relationships channel, animal free.. not for zoophiliacs
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I saved you enczxflbwm
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oh, that’s much better
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how the fuck did pets take over then?
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ah, pieter strikes again
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i owe you much scotch
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many hugs
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😊
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I’m somewhere over Manitoba i think
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so right now all i can offer is frozen moose meat
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Thai customs will put me on a terrorist watchlist if you send that to me without a gazillion papers and permits
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The Scotch at a future date sounds promising
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moose meat is delicious
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and nutritious.
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best served drizzled in a gastrique of orphan tears
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Just had the most efficient date ever.. matched on tinder maybe 2 hours ago, lady asks right away to meet for dinner because she doesn’t feel like eating alone, we meet for dinner an hour later, have a pretty quick dinner over in 40 minutes and then part ways.
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💔
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that bad?
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jeydbaut haha, seemed like it was going okay from my perspective but I suppose it’s good it was over quick anyways 😂
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Happens a lot whilst travelling. Some people are just looking for company for lunch etc
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It’s the transient issue of travelling
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Yeah it seems likely that’s all it was
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They were probably just looking for something more on the plutonic side, but when one side shows more than that and the other doesn’t then it becomes one side. You need to work out where they stand in the relationship and match where they are at. If they aren’t feeling it but you are then they gonna feel off and bail.
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lmdpsnyor _DinnerBuddy™_
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I mean, it’s 40 minutes.
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Yeesh, another one of those nights where I should have trusted my instincts and not gone out. Stay at my desk and work on code and projects = always satisfying. Interacting with live human beings in a social environment = who the fuck knows, but probably bad.
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I have that feeling soooo many times
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ladies and gentlemen, the most obnoxious man in the world is in my airport lounge
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he has not stopped talking, non-stop, for 3 hours
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other people talk and he continues talking and just weaves it into his conversation
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its like he’s trying to filibuster
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_everything_ is open for him to keep talking
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“oh look you’ve got sparkling wine there? you’re tried it? there’s a curfew at 6pm in nairobi.. you know i’ve once wander around that town when i was in a nightclub where i had to stay back and some guy is like ’what are you carrying that for?’.. and i tell him “i’ve gotta go clubbing”… and then i’m in an airbnb and it’s 34 degrees… and i’m sweltering because it’s a heatwave, and half my baggage is for loungewear, because on easter island it’s cold, but me and mahoy are gonna go drinking on easter island.. i’ve got these for walking around for a week, boy my hikers… say are those shoes new? those north face ones i have are nice they’re light, but they’re not the north face shore (?)… my ankles, I dunno, these were on sale but they’re very thick, very warm.. its mid-flap and huge but they’re great walking-around shoes but you know where we’re going i’m only gonna use them here i’m not going to use them in india, i don’t wannt buy shoes because thye don’t fit right, but do i do like the mid cut.. but i’ll keep those for india, so <x> is so good at getting back to me, and after all this time i’m like “you’ve got it right” but we have the two artists, a friend of larry.. who is gonna come meet with us in the gallery, but larry and i have yet to talk, but he’s telling people, but then cheryl is killing me from san diego, but i said “did you tell him?” and they said “no no no” but then there’s alison
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this is a faithful transcript of the last 90 seconds
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he’s still talking
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now he’s on to itins for friends through africa but actually utica but its his shoes but its his friend
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he is so loud
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he’s shouting to project to the whole fucking lounge,
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i am considering buying him booze to shut him up
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gaaaaaa
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he’s now on to the relative merits of each indian food restaurant he’s ever tried
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by his cis white man powers combined..
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jfc
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Wowza
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mcvyxqktob someone needs to interrupt him with a good shush and then say “shh!” when he tries to speak again the next 5 times heh
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He’s an unstoppable force
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Give him a some taffy. Then as he opens it, turn around and yell to everyone "now is your chance to flee! Head for the bars!!"
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thought it would be funny to bring cosmopolitan in here.. actual article choice is mostly random
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> Elsewhere, he said he would remember if he had had sex with her, because it is a “positive act” for a man

Jesus Christ Andrew. The.. dear lord.
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Last night I met up a couple named Hannah (her) and Montana (him). Nice people.
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_sets location to the place she was 3 locations ago_
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oh heeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeell no someone's profile says "hard shell > soft" and I can only imagine they mean fake taco shells and that is just heresy omg no
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oh but he's a diver though
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hrm
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GOOD NEWS EVERYONE I am back to live-slack-ing my tinder life
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I know you all missed it
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_No one is on the same island as me_ 😄
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aww someone has a photo on ipanema beach in rio and omg sdds but I don't want to match him just on that
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he's not my type
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which in this case means whyyyyyyyy with the facial hair
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oh no, accidentally swiped left on someone whose first photo had a lovely pile of black and white kitten in the background
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_Yes!_ godmode
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im still reeling from a 4 hour tinder date that ended in her going for a handshake goodbye at the end 🤯
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WHAT did you do to her?! 😄
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rvsqeerhu were you getting any good vibes from her during the date? Did she seemed comfortable and relaxed?
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it was her first tinder date, i dunno, it was a good date, she said it was a nice night after i msged her after. She went for the hand shake goodbye which i just gave her a hug and a kiss on the cheek instead. but the kicker was her parting words were 'i hope you enjoy the rest of your holiday'.

So maybe she thought i wouldnt be around / didnt like her 🤷‍♂️
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i'll ask her out again soon to see, but still slightly traumatised by the awkward goodbye haha.
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some people are dating in order to meet a long term partner. other are dating for the fun. when two people of those two different kinds meet, this is mostly what happens 🙂
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she probably assumed you are looking for a holiday date — did you talk about it? did you tell her so or otherwise?
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yeah thats probably the awkward thing, i told her that i was planning to extend my stay possibly because my friend lives her blah blah when she asked how long i was going to be here and i had the freedom to do so etc. But i'm not gonna go message her and say hey i had a good time with you, so im gonna stay longer how about we going out again. thats way too intense.
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italians are intense by nature 😉
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I’ve moved in next door
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what doesnt seem intense to you, might seem flaky to her.
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since I'm not a DM I could imagine it might make people a bit defensive when dating a DM if they are looking for long term. The fact that you will be leaving makes some not put in any effort but maybe I'm wrong?
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I've noticed most people don't really understand location and scheduling flexibility.
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....but that does set the stage for casual sex if that is what people are cool with in those moments. Gotta roll the dice
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I think it could have gone down that path and yeah time constraints def set the stage for that. I really wasnt going for that though.
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I'll prob just message her about what areas are good to live and see what her response is
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Id vote for message her exactly what you said above is intense. And ask her what areas are good to live on next date and watch her face expression.
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especially her eyes
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thats not my style at all
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haha
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.....I usually don't go for a kiss on the first date since it's pretty intense really but I do usually hug but a handshake? That's rough
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high five
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yeah that was awks
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that's cold
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Maybe it's weird, but I've taken to asking people what they like
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I was only suggesting what makes sense from a girl’s point of view. Let us know if your style worked.
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Hug, handshake, fist bump, kiss, wave?
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girls dont make sense.
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generally people don't make sense
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do all of those in that order. She will never forget you
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more importantly people are dumb
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especially if theyre nervous
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also this pinotage has waaaaaaaaaay too much chocolate
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a glass of pinotage would be swell
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yep. I have a first date coming up in 2 days. There has already been some weird game type stuff but we follow each other on instagram and she slid into the dm's so now it's on. It's either going to be cool or it's not. People sometimes have to put in some work and some just have to give people a chance.
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I'm too tired and cranky to give people a chance
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Welcome to my world but I know others are like that too. Once you get past that you may find some of these are great and it could be the start of something good. It's too easy to hate on stuff from afar.
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yeah but this couch is pretty comfy to hate from 😂
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okay but seriously this is what I get for grabbing a random wine at the nearest grocery store because this pinotage isn't like a *bad* wine it's just a *very bad for me* wine and this is making me sad
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Recently I've noticed people disqualify themselves really quickly... the IG stories feature helps 😅
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people are so bad at personal branding sometimes…:D
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people who are doing "personal branding" are the people I don't want to meet ever
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gcqpwjmb seriously. This was a tinder match and we moved to IG and she had like 15 pics of her dog and that was it. Like wtf. I then asked how can I learn anything about you and she said by asking her in person but that convo took like a month to do. She is lucky she is cute
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we all do, realizing it or not. it is how you carry yourself trough this world
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it's like them telling you they are an influencer
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also vom worthy
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turn off
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thats totally not where i was going
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Heheh... one of my worst dates of the last five years was with an influencer who had the IRL social skills of a cardboard box
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like a friend of mine started to date this girl who is cute and pretty cool but posts SO MANY PICS OF HER that it skews my view. Like don't be so thirsty
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cmmnwdqhk I know what you mean and you are right. You either are attracting or repelling people through your looks/actions/etc
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apparently a popular thing to do these days in resort vacation destinations is to book a photography session with super extra dresses/costumes
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like, there is a whole slew of posts in my female travel groups of women who go to santorini
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and have those photo shoots in dresses with trains like 15 meters long
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this chick is a belly dancer so I'll give her some room
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flowing in the wind
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... most tourist attractions these days have something setup for selfies 🤮
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isn't there a famous tourist spot in like........... thailand where the photos look like there is a mirrored pond right under the arches of somethin
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for vivid in sydney they build most of the art installations so that people will post photos of themselves at them on ig
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and instead it's literally a guy holding a mirror under the camera
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haha yeah i saw that
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More like values and the essence of you
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and the line is like FOUR HOURS LONG
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if I'm waiting four hours for something it better be delicious
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fuck that shit
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I'm super happy spending pretty much 95% of my travel-adventure time going to places that nobody really appreciates, understands, or visits
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vivid is pretty hectic though 🎆
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I'm actually super on board with time spent to see things that are super beautiful
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I had to book a tour to go to benegil in southern portugal
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really stunningly beautiful
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I just don't see the point in a photo shoot of things that are fake
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It just disappoints me when I see beautiful things and people are more concerned with making it about them. It's pretty gross
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oh yeah at benegil there was a couple doing a photo shoot trying to get the "perfect" photo
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tbh whatevs, until they start getting in my way
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if you take 45 minutes at the photo op spot I'm going to walk right into your framing
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photobomb
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I sorta understand this tendency to put yourself in the frame. I mean, I have a blog with something like 10,000 photos on it, and it starts to seem a little strange that I'm almost never in any of those pictures... very impersonal
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But it can go to other extremes... like the world itself isn't at all interesting unless your ego is centered
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oh I am never in my own photos
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I don't really like solitary people in my photos either
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if there is like a cityscape with a group of random people that's fine
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but mostly I want to take a picture of the view
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I've had a lot of arguments/discussions about people arguing between having oneself in the photo to "personalize" it vs not having photos of oneself
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I don't think a photo of the place without yourself is "impersonal" necessarily
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you decide on the framing and the view and what exactly you're pointing at
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my photos don't have people but you can def see a theme in how I photograph
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(e.g. lots of turtle butts 😂 )
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😍
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Doors to heaven or similar name in Bali, maybe near Ubud. Super scam.
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wait, people are taking pictures of shit that is not even real and pretending it is?
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They dont pretend it is real but it really looks good in a shot
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people line up for it
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Now if it is reasonable to queue for it I would say to each their own
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that's just not my style
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some people favour originality, theres nothing unique about this except the dude with the mirror
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yeah it shows you have the personality of an asshole
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hes probably making bank 😂
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an instagram of other instagrams. Brilliant
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this is the worst offender
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so much cringe, i went on a date with a girl who wanted a photo like this 🤮
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Here's my girlfriend that makes me do stupid shit
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and i saw someone doing a pose like this the other day
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did you look into his dead eyes?
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sadly my friend is in this relationship. I think she wanted to go out with him since he is a photographer. No shit
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i left the vicinity immediately
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please tell me you yelled out "I think I'm going to be sick"
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I mean the originally video was cool and that was nearly half a decade ago now
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and people are still copying it?..
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I just checked and the original couple is _still_ cashing in on this
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But what are your great travel ideas? (I wanna know)
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I prob shouldnt have laughed at this
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Hah... there are some good parodies out there
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Have u checked how much garbage is australia selling to india and indonesia? You might skip laughing
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some chick ate space cakes in amsterdam and went to the dungeon thing there with me, I thought that was pretty ballsy/funny for her to do. Probably not the first person to do that, but better than this herd of people flying to a tourist destination to replicate a photo style that people on the internet do so they post it on their own ig for likes, maybe for memories too but there is an irony in trying to replicate something they didn't think of originally.
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👾 🍰
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Wine can be a bit of a mixed bag here. the good ones are great, the weaker ones are pretty weak. If you learned some of the Argentine tricks to pick a good bottle, they work well here
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I'm so happy about this. I want one about all of the kissy face in the car or butt out pose in the same place around the world which is 80% of insta
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An update on my work thing
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They did something worse than I could have imagined
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Worst case was I get fired or they shout at me a lot
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But no. They figured a worst punishment
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They won’t ask the vendor for an extension until dec 31. And by then if they say no I won’t have time to fix it.
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It seems designed to force me to work even harder
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The only way we hit the dec 31 date presumes I work 100 hours per week exclusively on this project. Despite having easily another 40 hours a week of other must-do commitments. And at the end of it they might can it anyway.
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I sort of feel like crying now
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It’s... Machiavellian
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That only leaves 4 hours for sleep. I’m not sure I can do this for 6 weeks without significant damage
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Can't cut them? Sounds like a client from hell getting into you fire them territory
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Yeah screw that for a laugh
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The Bali gate
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Someone needs to do the hand-holding picture with the girl sinking into quicksand. trollface
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Good to know the government of Taiwan has my back with dating. thinking_facesweat_smile
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"While your date doing handsy movements to you, please try to get away from him/her, and tell your family about the situation on the phone."
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Clearly someone in the Taiwan government had a bad experience on Tinder. 😛
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Uh this looks silly but sad at the same time
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it's good tips though
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and i think other governments have put out very similar tips anyways
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it's just funny because of the engrish
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er, i agree it is sad though (cause of the implications.. "unfortunate invasions" 😬 )
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when I tell dudes I don't know what I want (on tinder) I get ghosted; when I tell them I am looking for neither soulmate nor one night stand but some time spent with someone I actually like as a human being (the truth) I also get ghosted
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boys are dumb
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apparently the only "correct" answer is "let's get in bed right now"
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I think maybe the time (and probable monetary) commitment may not be worth the “vagueness” of the interaction?
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speaking from a place of trying to understand the reactions, not necessarily a knowing of the reality
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i wouldn't ask that question on tinder but i'll admit i'm fairly likely to not continue dating someone who just says "i don't know what i want" on an early date
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the second part of the answer seems reasonable to me.. mostly since it's important in dating as an adult that the person has thought about it some even if they're not really sure what is "ideal" (because this will vary by the person you're dating anyway)
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so lame for people to ghost
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the phrasing is almost always identical "so what are you looking for on tinder?"
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rzcagwdott It seems like you should start thinking about outsourcing as you always try to do work of 3 full time people at least 😄
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and trust me when I say that what 90% of them are looking for is "to get laid right now"
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quatbigxh I am not going to meet someone who thinks they should get guaranteed sex just for coming out to meet me
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the vagueness is because I should be allowed to decide at the 11th hour I'm no longer interested
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which is apparently an odd concept to a lot of dudes
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iqzorqymacxn absolutely agree that should be your prerogative, but unfortunately the way tinder (and technology) is allows for the fastracking of the things you want and the easy negation of what you dont. It doesn't leave much room for nuance.
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Tbh girls ask literally the same
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But prob for diff reasons
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Yea it just seems like a way to filter people
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Unfortunately, what you get with the disconnection from our humanity that technology is ... not really getting treated like a human
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I can't find the word I'm looking for but what you're doing is offloading the blame onto the technology instead of people being shitty sometimes
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the technology certainly doesn't help
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but people also can just not be dicks
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knqntfypeaab no no, I'm not saying it's the fault of the technology. I am saying that the technology is more of an enabler of already shitty behaviors/values
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rjguvbhhjehh But if they come to you then you don't need to put pants on 😉 😂 >https://nomadlist.slack.com/archives/CQ1C12DJN/p1574177266235700>
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May I humorously propose that with the amount of visitors there probably looking for a hiking buddy as a type of dating (hiking there alone is quite dangerous in some areas) and the summer just arriving, they just wanna… 😄
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Ever had sex camping? It's *in tents*
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hiking as a first date sounds like literally my nightmare
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_Let's hike in your pants_ pickup line of 2019 😄
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tbh hiking as an Nth date would also be my nightmare
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because that means I'd gone that long dating someone who thought hiking was a reasonable date
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and somehow hadn't realized it yet
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I did not mean go on such date, but that visiting ladies surely ask for hiking dates as a way to have a buddy bt do not follow trough 😄
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I wouldn't ever take a girl out for a hike on a first date, unless she suggested it. Just, not good for either.... She's might worry where I stashed a shovel and I'm going to worry that I'll be trapped in the middle of nowhere with someone who grinds my nerves
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and then guys decide to be straightforward
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Now, to get this you gotta know Cape Town — it is full of hiking hill within town and people go at all times. But also Cape Town is extremely dangerous for small street attacks and hiking sites are good places to rob somebody.
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You can literally do a 45 min hike there.
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I'm reasonably sure hiking sites are a good place to rob somebody everywhere in the world
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also I am never going hiking, robbery attempts or otherwise
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Locals were advising be to uber for even just 1km past dinner time, be careful out there
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and again, I did not offer you to go camping a single time. was just joking about whats happening there
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I hate getting the "what are you looking for" question.
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But I also wrote 300+ words answering that on my profile (not Tinder).
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I've gone through a phase of optimizing my profile for the most common inquiries or dating style conflicts I've experienced over the years... which just makes me look like some kind of desperate nut to some people.
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wgmntvyy examples pls
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Full text pls
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On my OKCupid profile, it was quite long... I put that I was attracted to reading comprehension as the first line 😄
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ugh I hate when dudes say things like "you have a great ass" but to be honest I know a lot of women who would find that sort of thing not offputting (at least, some minutes into a conversation, not the first thing)
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also because I do NOT have a great ass, I have more or less a non-existent ass
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I have so little padding every camel ride makes me regret it almost immediately
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Haha I won't post the full thing. I should probably delete everything and replace it with "international man of mystery"
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POST ITTTT
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DOOOOO ITTTTTTTTTTT
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Who says you have a great ass if you don't know the person well? The only way I would say that is if I KNEW they wanted to hear it. That means I know them. No first date stuff (or second, third). Also they have to have a great ass. I just don't hand that out for no reason.
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whoever wants to move things/focus “that direction”
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How many hungry dudes literally have their dick in their hand while they're texting a new match
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I would imagine that explains a lot of brainless comments on dating apps
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I shut it down by telling him the water is so cold I'll be in like 7mm of neoprene if I'm anywhere near the water
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which is not false
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it's like 8-10º on this side apparently
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I will actually want to be in a friggin dry suit
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gyxnpbgsbezp do you like meetups? maybe try to spend some time with humans trough that. and maybe meet someone more normal there…there are a ton of those for all kinds of activities in CPT
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I don't really like meetups unless I already know a critical mass of people that will be attending
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so I can avoid new people if I decide I hate everyone
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That depends on the kind of meetup. If it's not social then why go if you are trying to meet people? I went to one last night but it was about javascript so......that is usually not a spot to meet attractive ladies.
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lol
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wait
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ouch
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not saying it's not possible but...
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😡
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I was not going to meet ladies though
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they have activities, adventure ones there bntshnnfglpevmhh it is a very, very outdoorsy place
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usually I make friends at the dive shop I go to
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unforch I didn't realize the dive shops are all outside the center of town
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so less likely they'll be around where I live or want to hang out around where I live
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in dahab all my friends are from my dive shop, basically
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yyivcowhg yeah I know. To be fair I'm sure some social stuff could work. It's like anything. You never know
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well I've only been here for like 24 hrs so I'm sure I can sort things out in a few more days 😂
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looks for attractive women in the attendees of the meetup beforehand
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As long as you can put up with people vnnojgvfrmegblyx 🙂
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I KNOW I'M NOT THE ONLY ONE WHO HAS DONE THAT LOL
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I have never
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diff between men and women perhaps? Or is it just me? HA!
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I've had a few dates come out of ad-hoc public organized meetups
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I can imagine. Why not? Makes sense
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Not the reason I go, but it's better for dating than going out to the bar, and better chances to meet quality individuals
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Plus there is a built in topic that you both are interested in. Great ice breaker "What did you think of <insert name of topic>? I find it repulsive/fascinating"
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nah too creepy for a meetup lol
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Maybe it's just you 😉
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Touché 😂
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I think that when guys ask “so what are you looking for” ultimately all they really want to know is that there is a carrot at the end of the road. that there is a slightly better than 50/50 chance that sex is on the menu.. and it doesn’t have to be the first date either, but obviously they wouldn’t mind that. Ultimately most are probably not looking for “just friends” and want to avoid that particular dead end
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Donkeys and the carrot 🥕
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Everybody is looking for happiness so I consider that question to be invalid 😄
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touché
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Lyrics by U2
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Why can’t dudes just have lady friends they _don’t_ want to fuck? 🤔
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A couple awkward moments of bubbles being burst in there
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I think the older you get, the more you prioritize something other than just sex, but as I said, technology enables you to put that off for much longer these days without the same level of being alone as a consequence
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As the pool of options grows, the specific standards can hold out for longer
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You arent forced to capitulate as early 😅
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xxwvisxfnydcrkydx you could say "for evolutionary reasons" which of course, while partly true, is pretty "unevolved" reasoning (but then again, large portions of humanity seem to fit that description 😅 )
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I have about a dozen lady friends I don’t want to fuck. It’s not that hard to just be respectful. 🤷‍♂️
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You fall into the category I wasnt talking about then. Congrats 🎉
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Being respectful of others and how they arent here for your validation doesn't seem to be all that common these days
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(But especially on Tinder)
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friendship happens when both people are getting something out of it, two way street and all.. when there’s common interests, common background, etc
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I've got lots of guy friends I don't sleep with, and I only met like 20% of them on dating sites 😜
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On the other hand I don't bother to meet up with anyone unless I can first establish that they can hold a conversation, so that takes care of the shared interests part right off the bat
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qaiebilmxaty yes but everyone's definition of happiness is different, leading to an endless cycle of disappointment and sorrow aka the human condition 😭 *theatrical sobbing*
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(don't mind me, I just dislike November and am feeling unusually dramatic)
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This is a terrible conversation
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Being sexually attracted to someone is not exclusive with respecting them
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Sure but there’s a difference between feeling sexual attraction and expecting reciprocation.
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And if anything about expecting reciprocation had been in this morass of sex-shaming so far it wouldn’t be quite as deeply offensive
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I’m not saying anything negative about sex. I _definitely_ enjoy it. 😅
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There’s no shame in enjoying it, just in being a manipulative jerk on Tinder to trick people that aren’t on the same wavelength into satisfying you. 😬
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ppotzrmis but I don't want to hold out a sex carrot
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I would ultimately like to have sex but I don't want it to be a carrot, I want it to happen because we're getting along, not because I've dangled it as an incentive
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Makes sense, particularly if it’s not easy to cancel the date and walk off if you’re not getting along
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I was attempting to be descriptive in my earlier message, I agree there’s no need to hold out a carrot if you don’t want to. And I can see it can be risky to even do so
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nxpmcpsawrmopryb where have you seen sex shaming? in this conversation?
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And getting along first is definitely important
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not sure how that could be construed as “sex shaming”…
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the context is people ghosting others at the first sign of vagueness in relation to the dynamic. There are many examples of people who turn into assholes as soon as they figure out they aren’t getting what they want (sex in this case, but not specific to that).
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I don’t think anyone commented on the act of sex itself or wanting sex
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we are talking about the “carrot on a stick” dynamic it can create and how to work around that
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I don't understand the issue. I totally look at attendees if it's a social thing. That's what it is for. To meet people. If it's a bunch of dudes why would I go? If you use tinder or any dating app, you must agree with me since the initial feature is an image.
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Yes, exactly. I was talking about some guys being jerks and leading a woman on just to convince them to get into bed with them when they have no intentions of taking things any further than that. 🙄
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Do people know that it’s gonna be a ONS upfront?
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When I was dating it would only be clear later
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In my particular comment there I was just referencing that so many guys seem to be incapable of seeing a woman as anything other than a sex object.
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Either because logistics wouldn’t make it too easy or there just wasn’t much more to talk about
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That’s true
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I’ve 100% had dates that it was communicated from the start that it was just a hookup.
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If you’re honest about it, there’s nothing wrong with it.
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It’s the dishonesty that is the problem,
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It never came up for me
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I've never had a ONS that started out being communicated it was going to be a ONS. That seems pretty weird and unrealistic unless you know the person. I've never had the intention of a ONS myself. Sometimes things just happen. Why does that have to be communicated upfront? The night progresses and you find yourself in a situation. People are free to make their own decisions in the moment. No need to judge them.
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Rules rules rules
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People get in their heads too much.
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hylnbnwiusnidgag definitely agree that requiring someone declare upfront can kind of kill any of the tension/fluidity that can make encounters exciting. Also, if you commit to something and then want to change your mind.. people need to either be ok with not knowing the outcome/intention or at least not be a dick and just make it known you dont want ambiguity.
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This girl is sexting me and I'm like "not now, I'm watching the Sondland testimony" 🤯
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... but wouldn't that be better with cuddles?
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🍑
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Ok, this could be a first......a woman on tinder has in her profile that she is in an open relationship and.......three months pregnant. Now that's upfront!
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wow. I know a few people in open relationships but… well what’s the point of having arbitrary lines I guess 🤷
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“arbitrary”
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😐
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quite a unique added risk in those interactions 😅
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that is a bit much for me. To each their own I guess
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I’ve heard a story where a girl was scamming guys into believing she is pregnant so no birth control is needed, but she actually wasn’t and tricked the guy into a child to tie him down
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Saying she is pregnant from somebody else
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Some random girl saying we don't need to use condoms because X would make go so quick through the door
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I am fascinated by the logic of "if I get pregnant he has to stay with me".
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Yet for some reason it works from that I seen
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things that are just awk in a tinder conversation "I recently broke up with my girlfriend"
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seems unnecessary
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Talking about an ex right out of the gate is fucking sad.
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what better way of letting a new person know that you have some issues you have not quite worked out?
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also it makes me suspect that any date I go on with him will involve at least 30% talking about his ex....
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at least you will know he has a soul
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?
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mention ex on any date = unresolved baggage fo sho
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I was referring to the ones who would ghost you cause you are looking for a nice time with someone. So, somebody who can talk about feelings towards someone, at least has a soul. And, of course, stuff they need to go trough themselves.
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nah in the bin
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I'm out if a woman says too much early on about their ex. That's selfish
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well, i did not say they are a great match 😄
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if i mention a story about an ex its always 'the person i was with' or 'my friend'
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why would you even mention an ex
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It was all dug deep in a context, not in general.
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just makes it awkward as
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yeah what's next weeping?
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what on god's green earth is a soul
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prob destroyed a few
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It's somewhere down there, at the bottom of the bottle. Just need to keep looking for the right bottle, most are pretty soulless... 😉
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I think it’s ok to discuss exes when speaking about context of learned mistakes you both made. But for sure not on the first date(s) hehe. Probably a person isn’t ready for a new relationship if they speak a lot about ex
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I like to say “lol yeah that reminds me of that one time with my ex” almost every other sentence
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In my case it wasn’t so much “I’m just here for sex” as “I’m only here for a short time so don’t expect anything, I’m just looking for some friendship/companionship”
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also don't tell them they look like your ex
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Some stats from new >http://nomadlist.com/dating|nomadlist.com/dating> feature after one month:
handshake 4,342 platonic matches (avg 6 matches per user)
heart 2,649 romantic matches (avg 4 matches per user)
~about 40% likes 60% dislikes
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whoa, I just logged into the site and I think I may be on tinder
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hAHa
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i think 4 romantic matches per user might be the mathematical limit of matches possibly with the current userbase of /dating which is about 700 users
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so if i can get more people on it there can be more matches
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or i need to get more people on nomadlist itself which i'm ofc also working on
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anyway kinda nice result for first motnh
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month*
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i have no idea about results of matches like messaging cause ppl DM on Slack or Instagram/Twitter etc
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