How do you deal with the fear of leaving for the first time?

Awesome! Thanks for the inspiration :smile:

Everybody afraid of something they didn’t experience before. Think that if you listen to your fear and doubts and won’t go, you’ll regret all your life, it is a bran new world for you and big amount of new opportunities.

I always tell myself that everything is for the best! And it’s always true :slight_smile:

Hello Eddie,

I am in a very similar boat , I am also leaving for Chang Mai for the month of Oct , lets connect and share tips, At this time all I have is a plan ticket to BKK and a backpack with a laptop and few clothes :slight_smile:

Any suggestion on anything will be very helpful.

Thanks
Dig

I am in a similar position, with no business though, but with 2-3 years of runaway money and a complete distaste for my current job (corp finance) and city. I don’t know, the fear is real, especially if you don’t have technical skills to sell, because then you know you are pretty much giving up your carrier for the unknown.

So, I don’t know, yet. I think if you have a plan B and a good soft landing in case the house burns, you should go for it. If not, maybe it’s worth thinking about a plan B.

Said that, the more I stay in my current situation, the more I feel like going without a plan B…

By the way, it would be great to have some “carrier” advise from the community.

I bought a one-way ticket back in 1997, and the rest is history. Although I’ve never gone back, I’ve only been a ‘digital nomad’ for 3-4 years. In the early days, I would sometimes wake up disoriented in the night, but it wasn’t a big deal and with time it went away. What has always been most important is how I live my life, and by getting that ticket in 1997 I embarked on a life of my own choosing. It was absolutely the right choice and I have never, ever regretted it.

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Well if you don’t like your job, why don’t you leave? Life is too short to being doing something that you distaste.

Since you have some money saved up, why not learn a new skill or enter a new field? Could either go back to school, take some courses online, or find a mentor.

Not really sure what you mean by a plan B. My plan “A” is to travel, continue running my business, and to grow my new second business. If something doesn’t work, I’ll do what I always do, pivot and adapt. Don’t really have a plan B because this is something I have to do and I’m willing to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

I am leaving, I am working on a soft landing and a way to minimize risks, but I will leave. The main reason I am still here is because there are things I like about this job and I am working hard to find a way to either consult or train. It’s not easy, but maybe it works, maybe it doesn’t, then I have other ideas, too many actually. I am also decent developing in Flask/Django and RoR looks reasonably easy to learn.

So, I have got some plans and I am definitely leaving, I just think that living abruptly quitting on the whole field (in which I have 5 years of experience) may end up in missing good opportunities.

The mentor point is a great advice by the way, have you found any? I see many of the good people working on web stuff are usually too busy for newbies.

I’ve never heard about stoicism philosophy then i was leaving, but it appears that i practiced something similar. Before leaving i was practicing different ‘worse case’ scenarios -> eat only raw food for a month, sleep on a floor for a month, not drinking alcohol for a month and etc.

So then time came to move along, i didn’t had a single fear inside me. Just smile on my face. :slight_smile:

It would be weird to not worry when you leave the first time! I remember the first time I left… I was almost (yeah let’s say almost!) crying at the airport and I felt so lonely. Few hours later, the fear was gone, I landed in Slovakia, where I had never been before, and spent the BEST 8 months of my life and never looked back with regrets! As you keep going, the fear fades away.
And now that I am stuck in France, I feel I can’t breath anymore. I can’t wait for the moment when I will book my next one-way-to-wherever ticket.

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Well personally, I conquered my fear by buying tickets and then waiting too long before I cancelled them so I couldn’t get my money back and was pretty much forced to do it.

2 things:

  1. This nomad community is very encouraging. It’s encouraging to see other people are doing this and they’re just fine.

  2. Remind yourself you can always go back home. So you might as well go on an adventure and see if you like it.

I’m happy for you!

we often mistake excitement for fear.